How does one "move on". Really?

I've been battling this question because I can't seem to answer it succintly... To end a relationship and then to be in a place where you can start anew and discover another type of love is real, but it's not easy. Depending on where you were when the relationship ended, you may find yourself in different places thereafter. I seem to have been the villain in some relationships, ending it despite its necessity- but still, ending it. In the past it was possible because my feelings were quite clear and my actions only followed. Now it's a bit different, my actions did not follow my feelings- well, I suppose my actions followed particular feelings which I had not thought through. Life is life, and we must deal as it happens! Thank god for the air in my lungs, the beating of my heart and the strength of my brain!